tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7852456697006944257.post2145617782032054878..comments2023-09-01T10:02:45.320-04:00Comments on Dreams Really do Come True!: (The Absence of) Sunshine & RosesMelbahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16058896619253076094noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7852456697006944257.post-90805795201373238472011-03-23T00:56:18.516-04:002011-03-23T00:56:18.516-04:00Life is definitely messy, sister!! I have seen som...Life is definitely messy, sister!! I have seen some of the struggles you and M have faced in the last year and I truly admire your perseverance and determination to keep on keeping on. <br /><br />Your words are often a great comfort to me and I never really stopped to think how hard things truly are for you. <br /><br />Hang in there, it will all work out and I have faith (of course, today is a good day, but faith nonetheless) that there will be many cousins with which to form a kid's table at family get-togethers! <br /><br />Much love and hugs your way!!Hollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09097925734175926408noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7852456697006944257.post-24020150597593152942011-02-07T09:45:19.860-05:002011-02-07T09:45:19.860-05:00i was blog hoppn and hopped in here. i too worry a...i was blog hoppn and hopped in here. i too worry about if im being a good parent. there never seems to be enough time in the day. i just make sure i tell them every day i love them and then pray for help to make it thru the next day.redgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00900563954590855459noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7852456697006944257.post-80930597945347028842011-02-03T23:23:15.385-05:002011-02-03T23:23:15.385-05:00I'm right there with you re money, parenthood,...I'm right there with you re money, parenthood, stressors, etc. I found the transition to parenthood jarring and shocking... then discovering Boy's issues on top of it has almost crushed my spirit. I don't have crying jags anymore, but I still get caught unaware sometimes.<br /><br />And yet I can't hardly wait for #2. Truth be told, if Boy hadn't been dealt the crappy hand he has, we'd have recertified before the end of last year and we'd be paper pregnant again already. Alas, it has to wait until the end of this calendar year when we reassess where we are and where Boy is with his therapies.<br /><br />Hang in there... it will all level out. Sorry I've been MIA so long.<br /><br />Peace,<br />--AAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7852456697006944257.post-27880499183385930802011-01-29T15:05:34.461-05:002011-01-29T15:05:34.461-05:00Well, even if the job market is tight in your stat...Well, even if the job market is tight in your state, the world will always need teachers! The last part of a degree can feel like forever but go you for hanging on through new motherhood! As far as a second child goes, even though many people do have another one right away I think that if you wait until you are graduated with a job you'll find that you have more cash flow to adopt again and C will still be a toddler, it's not like you'll be spacing them 5 years apart. But I hear you--after you experience the miracle of adoption it's hard not to want to do it again right away!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7852456697006944257.post-80249190499140314962011-01-28T01:37:45.426-05:002011-01-28T01:37:45.426-05:00wow! i feel like you've read my mind. no one e...wow! i feel like you've read my mind. no one ever tells you the nitty gritty of motherhood. it can be really messy. some days are down right hard. i've been unemployed for 12+ months which has worked in my favor in allowing me to stay at home with sammy but not so much in the financial contribution. i get unemployment but it's not the same as a salary. and we're already talking about a sibling for sammy in the next two years, but that can't realistically happen until i'm employed again. i feel a little guilty for wanting to adopt again too and even more so because our wait was relatively short.<br /><br />hang in there. once school is finished you'll have a little more room to breathe!joycehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04005978751240870889noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7852456697006944257.post-88702441321641720742011-01-27T13:41:43.991-05:002011-01-27T13:41:43.991-05:00I'm sorry that life has been dishing out an ex...I'm sorry that life has been dishing out an extra dose of difficult lately. <br /><br />I always worry more about my parenting skills when life gets crazy. When I'm stressed, I have less patience and just go through the motions sometimes. I think I also had this picture of what life would be like once I finally had a child (all sunshine and roses), but it's just as real as it was before and not always easy.<br /><br />I'm not telling you anything except that I understand and I hope things get a lot easier for you all soon!hope548https://www.blogger.com/profile/11951199252401108222noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7852456697006944257.post-66683302075174504092011-01-27T10:17:59.467-05:002011-01-27T10:17:59.467-05:00I love your posts, and it is so refreashing when y...I love your posts, and it is so refreashing when you read the truth from people. Mommy-hood is awesome, but it's not what defines you. as for wanting More, i totally agree with you, and there is nothing wrong with wanting more. More for yourself and your child.Mrs.Qhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09263245518943961008noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7852456697006944257.post-31241140183776721202011-01-24T21:36:29.684-05:002011-01-24T21:36:29.684-05:00you don't have to justify yourself to me! tha...you don't have to justify yourself to me! thanks so much for sharing in open messiness :) makes me feel better knowing i'm not the only one who's got lots on her plate and isn't always best at handling it all. i hear ya too on your heart wanting another child soon, but...how would that quite work?? hugsrlvdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04291113512456271651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7852456697006944257.post-24513875674776215722011-01-24T21:27:28.268-05:002011-01-24T21:27:28.268-05:00I SO hear you. I often feel guilty for griping wh...I SO hear you. I often feel guilty for griping when I waited for SO long to be a mommy, but now I've gotten to the point where I'm just proud of us if we don't exceed our budget for one month. Plus the terrible two's have hit our house like a bomb. A whiny "eh eh eh" child has replaced her followed by me saying "use your words". I've been feeling even more guilty becuase I've been mulling over a mom's morning out program at a local church so I have some time to do things like work out, get my hair cut, go to the supermarket quickly, and finally have a little time to myself. Sigh, it is hard. I guess being a parent in general is hard. We are also thinking we'd like to add a sibling and wondering how we'll afford it. Since it's not like just doing the deed will get the job done.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7852456697006944257.post-43271566498659883842011-01-24T18:39:37.369-05:002011-01-24T18:39:37.369-05:00Thanks for your honest post. I do think we all be...Thanks for your honest post. I do think we all benefit when people are more open and honest, but it's so hard to do. Trying to seem perfect only adds more stress. Hang in there, hoping the time until graduation flies by, you find a great job, and you are re-energized and ready to go for #2!Lanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15845265647900899258noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7852456697006944257.post-20770528761369770052011-01-24T17:09:34.522-05:002011-01-24T17:09:34.522-05:00I got nothing. Hang in there!
LOVE the picture of...I got nothing. Hang in there!<br /><br />LOVE the picture of mr squels of laughter laid out in the snow!Mrs Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04667705054839014784noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7852456697006944257.post-89009335179653684162011-01-24T14:42:40.753-05:002011-01-24T14:42:40.753-05:00Just a few more months to graduation! Hopefully t...Just a few more months to graduation! Hopefully that means a jobby-job too. Hang in there.Geochickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04060602689692876499noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7852456697006944257.post-44330432063861721302011-01-24T11:21:25.657-05:002011-01-24T11:21:25.657-05:00I'm so glad to hear from you! Even if it is a...I'm so glad to hear from you! Even if it is a bit *messy.* This post made me cry a little bit. It makes me really wish we lived closer so, instead of a nap, we could just have coffee.<br /><br />Your struggles are your own. Just because someone else has more outwardly obvious struggles, doesn't diminish what you are going through.<br /><br />It is hard to be a mom. Its hard to be a mom when it is the ONLY thing you are doing. It is severely compounded by being pulled in 100 different directions.<br /><br />And don't even get me started on the toddler bad days. I KNOW I have an exceptionally well behaved (albeit willful) kiddo. But it is still difficult once they are full fledged opinionated individuals.<br /><br />Maybe we should both go starbucks and skype? :) <br /><br />Hugs, Melba! Something'll give soon!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7852456697006944257.post-12830826639078620402011-01-24T07:30:35.502-05:002011-01-24T07:30:35.502-05:00Oh, it IS all so messy, isn't it?
As for th...Oh, it IS all so messy, isn't it? <br /><br />As for the daily stuff, I try to look around and love the mess because it means we're having fun. Or avoiding disaster. <br /><br />The emotional stuff? The real-life stuff? That's a little harder. I tend to keep a bit quieter about that.<br /><br />I loved this post, Melba - and you're doing a great job handling it ALL!Richelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15646841482227401311noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7852456697006944257.post-45956046954009812882011-01-23T23:54:21.157-05:002011-01-23T23:54:21.157-05:00Very honest post. Thanks for your transparency, ma...Very honest post. Thanks for your transparency, mama. It's hard when you're in a valley to taste the joy at the top of the mountain but hang in there!Ashleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08652393990188112020noreply@blogger.com