Tuesday, July 22, 2008

I haven't felt it

I may have to eat these words later, but I hope not. I've been reading several posts on other blogs about rude comments from people IRL and lack of excitement at the mention of adoption, etc. Maybe it's because I don't mention our status a whole lot, unless directly asked about it, or maybe it's something else...but at least so far, I haven't felt that notorious big white elephant in the room when I tell people we're adopting. A little arsenal always stands ready in the back of my mind, should the need for defense arise, but I haven't had to call upon that just yet.

As a side note, I went to Babies-R-Us the other day to inquire about the process for creating a baby registry (and YES I parked in the "expectant mothers" parking space!) and they were very friendly. They explained the process and gave me a packet with more info. I think we will probably do this at some point in the near future and I am really excited for that day. I remember not so long ago when I walked around that store with my friend during her pregnancy. Dreaming with her was fun, to be sure, but that experience pales in comparison to how I feel now, dreaming about our own expectancy.

I wrote some time ago about my struggle with the loss of control once we enter the pool, but to my surprise, the exact opposite has happened. At least as of right now I feel a complete sense of peace about where we are. My blogger buddy and fellow waiting adoptive mom, Tracey mentioned this in a recent post on her blog, and I have to say I'm feeling much the same. I know there will be times when the waiting becomes difficult, but for the moment, I feel restful, hopeful, and happy!


Debbie B said...

So glad you're feeling good about the wait right now.
I remember my excitement at finally being able to create a baby registry. Then I would get online and check it constantly (not like anyone bought anything).
One thing that my friend told me was to register somewhere else as well (target or walmart) because BRU can be confusing to shop in for the older crowd.

We only ever got one really bad comment. No one really asked which to me was worse. Now we get lots of stares and a few questions.

Cari said...


I can't imagine what someone would say to youthat wouldn't be positive. I think it is wonderful that you are adopting.

Have fun at BRU. There is so much to chose from. Luckily, there isn't one close to me.

Sarah said...

Hi there -
It's wonderful that you feel such a sense of peace... from one control freak to another, I know that feeling out of control can sometimes ARGH! :) And I'm so glad that you haven't experienced any of the rude comments... sounds like you're surrounded by a great group of loving supporters.

alicia said...

I am so glad you are feeling at peace and have not experienced any akwardness when telling others about your adoption plans! and good for you parking in the expectant mother spot! AWESOME!

katd said...

Good for you for parking in the expectant moms spot:) You ARE expecting! For me, it was so exciting to finally be on the path to a baby. It may take awhile, but you know it WILL happen!!! :)

Bri said...

Yay, Melba! I can't wait until we get the TIME to register! I have so much picked out already, it will just be nice to have an actual list, rather than just one in my head!

I think with me, the comments and questions tend to be me being a little sensitive. I already have my "dukes" up ready to defend my children's honor if need be.

Tracey said...

Glad you share the feeling. Best of luck!

Rebekah said...

I'm glad you haven't had to build an army of defenses against all the rude comments! And I can't wait to register either...I'm waiting until WE'RE in the pool!! :)

Nancy said...

Good for you. I imagine it must be an incredible relief to have already jumped through all the hoops and now it's simply out of your hands. I can't wait until I'm in your shoes.

Becky said...

So glad to hear you are feeling better and at peace. I know the constant wave and roller coaster of emotions that will still come and, that is OK! It's all part of it! I like to be in control too however, what about IF or adoption are we in control of?!! NOTHING! Kinda sucks! But, the blessing will be worth the wait! Easier said than done...I know!!