In a couple more weeks, I'll be graduating with my bachelor's in Elementary Education, along with an endorsement in Early Childhood Education. That part is absolutely thrilling, can't come soon enough! But that's not the point of this post. The point of this post is for me to tell you that my (not-quite) two-year-old is giving me a run for my money! I feel a bit like the auto-mechanic who can't fix her own car or the computer tech who can't fix his own hard drive lately. Caring for and disciplining young children is
what I do. In some form or another, it's what I've always done. I know children naturally give their parents more grief than they give others. I know they test their limits at home more than any other place but wow...I never imagined being the parent of a toddler would be this challenging at times!
Our son is still the most precious and adorable bundle of joy I've ever laid eyes on but he is going through a n.a.u.g.h.t.y phase right now. When he was a baby, my younger sister said, "He's got a dimple. You know toddlers with dimples are always making trouble, right?" I wasn't expecting her to be correct quite so soon! His behavior is especially challenging for me because, in his typical all-boy style, he seems to actually enjoy getting into trouble. For example, he knows he's not supposed to eat crayons and yet every time we give him one, he puts it up to his mouth and grins mischievously. When I take the crayons away, he laughs. Given that, it's clear that the best plan of attack would be for me to ignore the unwanted behavior. That does work some of the time, but then he will intentionally do things he knows I can't ignore, such as standing up in his chair at the dinner table. The other night he was doing that and when I asked him to, "sit down or get down," he looked at me, grinned, and raised both of his little hands into the air. OK
seriously?? It was all I could do not to burst out laughing but of course I had to maintain my composure.
I've been reading about discipline lately and I have found some techniques (more rules of thumb really) that I'd like to try to implement. The two that come to mind are, "The three C's - calm, caring and consistent" as well as the "90:10 ratio," which states that interactions with your child should be 90 parts positive and 10 parts negative or better. The thing is...
these articles do not say anything I don't already know. My experience with theories is that they work wonderfully in a book, with the ideal child in mind. In practice, however, things are a bit more complicated. Interactions with real children are often more complex than the books can portray. It's frustrating to read or know something, then try it out and end up with a different outcome than you expected.
Consistency between caregivers is the other huge factor. For the most part, Michael and I do pretty well in this department; however, our little smarty has already figured out which parent to ask for which item. He knows, for example, that Daddy is more likely to turn on the TV than Mommy, or that Mommy is more likely to let him practice flushing the potty than Daddy. Did I mention he's not even two yet? He is definitely socially motivated. He picks up on our moods and our tones of voice quickly, probably even more so than we realize. He also dislikes being separated or withdrawn from others. These are things I'm trying to fit into the grand schema of our disciplinary plan for him. We're still navigating the waters and figuring it all out one day at a time but I'm trying to get it together.
In writing this post, I've just come up with the idea that I should try to think of myself as a parent in my classroom. What advice would i give myself if I could be on the outside? Hmmm...that's going to require more thought on my part but it's an interesting idea. For now, I think it also bears mentioning that as naughty as he can be, our little one is also still quite sweet. Every time I cough or sneeze he says, "besh ooo Mommy" and just about melts my heart. It's all really about balancing between and navigating the (often abrupt) changes in his demeanor. He's definitely a smart, strong-willed, funny, strong, sweet little boy. The key is helping him (which will inadvertently help us) to become the best he can be. A tall order but I'm trying...
Sometimes I think we've given our son the wrong middle name. Sometimes I think his middle name should have been Trouble! Seriously? The scene you see to the left is what happened last night, in the two minutes it took me to realize I had forgotten to close the bathroom door on my way to make dinner. It took some effort on my part to remember to take a deep breath and relax. All I can say is, thank goodness for plungers! 
Of course, once I got over my initial shock at the boy's toilet paper experimentation, the only natural thing to do was to laugh...and grab the camera, of course! You can tell by the change in his expression that Mommy lightened up a bit. Still, I think we've learned a valuable lesson at our house: Toilet paper stays off the roll for the foreseeable future! To his credit, at least he's not scared to flush the toilet. That is one potty training hurdle we will not have to overcome! 
...or at least ours is. These are the kind of encounters we have on a regular basis these days. Now that our lives have changed, I miss my time with the little one more than words can express but the old adage, "Absence makes the heart grow fonder" is certainly holding true for us. He wants me as much as I want him after we've spent the whole day in separate places. 
He's certainly keeping me occupied these days--between making sure he doesn't eat something poisonous and preventing other major dangers, I never seem to get a break. He is seriously into everything all of a sudden and he has quite a strong independent "I can do it myself" streak going on at the moment. He's not even walking yet and he thinks he can rule the world, gees! But I love it too. I love watching the emergence of his delightful (if sometimes daunting) independence. His personality is really beginning to take shape and I love all the new things he's doing.
***please forgive the quality of the photos in this post, they're cell phone images***
His experiences with food continue to go really well. He's pretty much eating what we eat now, although I still enjoy making him veggie and fruit purees that I freeze. He's learned how to start telling us what he thinks now with his sour face and yuck face. The really funny thing is when he makes the sour face with a food that clearly isn't at all sour. He's figured out that we think he's cute when he makes those faces so he performs for us. :) He's definitely an independent boy when it comes to food. Depending on his mood, he sometimes won't even try a new food unless he can feed it to himself. He's also beginning to master his sippy cups, which is so cute to me since they still look so big in his little hands.
I can hardly believe there is only one more month before this amazing little child turns ONE.
As unbelievable as it is, little Charlie is ten months old today. He's becoming quite the mobile little man and he's getting more independent by the day. He's still a social butterfly baby who wants to be where we are but he's beginning to want to investigate more than he has in the past. He is a fast crawler and he's even gotten brave enough to stand up without any support once or twice. His personality is endearing. He's loves to play games (he invents new ones every day!) and there's a lot of laughter around our house lately. :) During the past couple of weeks he started laughing when we laugh or fake coughing to see what kind of reaction he can get from us. Cute! 
