Tuesday, June 16, 2009

Every So Often... still hits me like a ton of golden bricks, I AM A MOM!

Mostly, we are settling into a routine, and life with Charlie is beginning to feel more like normal life, with A LOT more joy in the mix. Tonight, reading my dear friend, Rebekah's excited posts, I am brought back to that time only seven short weeks ago (was it really only seven weeks ago?) when our precious son entered the world.

Actually, the day he was born we had no clue. I was sitting in my doctor's office that day, on the verge of tears about how long our wait was becoming, and my feelings of despair. Who knew that only a few hours before, the winds of great change had already begun to shift in our direction?

There are so many things on my mind tonight. I want to write posts about racism in America, about marriage after children, about how to talk to children about adoption, about the current adoption book I'm reading, about my relationship with my dogs after baby, there is just so much I want to say...and yet no real frame for any of it in my mind. I feel jumbled and all over the place.

Plus, I need to go to sleep while I have the chance.


Wendy said...

Hi Melba - I just saw your comment on my blog. Yes, I'm so excited for Ben and Rebekah, too!! Yes, we're in Michigan. I just realized (not too long ago) that you are in MI, too - small world, huh?

Both my husband and I were checking Rebekah's blog for updates tonight! Very fun. I'm so happy for them and for you!

If you ever want to "talk," you can email me -

Wendy said...

BTW, I love your shower pictures! Eric Carle is one of my favorite children's authors; how great is it that your friend made you that quilt?

M/J Granata said...


Your words..."on the verge of tears about how long our wait was becoming, and my feelings of despair". I am right here now. Hurts. Hate it. Just hate it.

So happy for you! Charlie is so very lucky to have you for a mommy! You ARE blessed!

alicia said...

yay your a mom!!! hee hee those posts will get written soon, but it is fun to just think wow I am a mom! yuppee

Debbie B said...

I still have those moments. And I enjoy each one of them and occasionally they bring me to tears.

I've got your birthday story beat! Isabel was two days old when I broke my hand in exhaustion/desperation of our wait. Learned she was our daughter 6 days later.

I have about 80 drafts in my blog. I just start writing a post when it's on my mind and I have a free hand and get back to it when I can.

Jamie said...

melba ~ i, too, have been so emotional this week following rebekah's journey because it has stirred up SO many memories of us just 5 months ago. there's nothing that can describe meeting your son for the first time.....nothing in the world and i'm thankful that there are times when i'm brought back to where it all began and am trule reminded again of the miracle of how i became a mother. :)
we had to do so much research during our wait for a of the books was a HUGE book on transracial adoption and it really opened my eyes to issues within our society in regards to this. i guess i live in a state thinking that post of that is past history.....i learned that it's not and that made me sad. it was a wonderful book (i'm sure you have done tons of research, but it's called "Inside Transracial Adoption" and I thought it was wonderful!)i think it would be a great read for everyone....especially for other family members to be aware of as well. :)

Anonymous said...

I'm so, so glad that you're on the other side of that wonderful day 7 wks ago! And I'm very much looking forward to reading your posts on racism/life after baby/etc... I always enjoy and gain food for thought from the Melba perspective! :)

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Kellie said...

Hi! I just found your blog through another blog, and I'm going to follow you! My husband and I are about to start the adoption process and I need as many supporters as I can get! Congratulations, Charlie is ADORABLE!!

kimberly said...

happy first Father's Day to your hubby, melba....i'm sure it is so joy filled!

Jamie said...

Just wanted to wish Michael a very happy father's day! hope it was wonderful ~ isn't it so exciting to be able to celebrate this day...finally?!! :)

Anonymous said...

I'm so happy for you and your wonderful son. He looks so adorable!

I can't believe how much hair he has!

I'm really interested in reading about how your dogs are adjusting to their new sibling. Are they jealous?

E said...

I just can't wait to be able to say those words (I AM A MOM!)

So happy for you, M. Your joy is so palpable in your posts!