Tuesday, June 2, 2009

June Second

Well it's here, the date to which we have been anxiously counting down has finally arrived. June 2nd marks the official end of our first post-placement waiting period. We still have several hoops through which we will need to jump before Charlie's adoption is completely final, but this was a big one.

I feel so relieved that our son is here to stay. I was never really worried, because I had a deep inner sense that everything would be okay from the very first moment I laid eyes on him, but's nice to have the official date behind us. It's nice not to have to wonder anymore, or to think about the calendar quite so much.

Despite my feelings of happiness and relief at the arrival of this date, there is also some sadness for me. It's that old conundrum of adoption that inevitably brings up conflicting emotions--our joy centers on someone else's loss. There is nothing for it, this aspect of adoption just plain sucks. I wish it didn't have to be so, but at the same time...I am tremendously grateful for the miracle that adoption is. I am so thankful for the fact that I am (at long last) connected to this wonderful baby boy. I am thankful that he has a home and a forever family, and that we have him.

I guess there's nothing much more to say, but as usual...I will leave you with a few of my current favorite photos:

Sweetness in my lap!

Beautiful smile for Mommy!

He definitely learned this tongue thing from Daddy!

Yep, the shirt pretty much says it all...and thanks to my awesome pals, Bri and Sarah...he will get to wear this adorable outfit all summer. Thanks, Girls!

He actually giggled right before I took this picture. :)

Being a baby is hard work...Charlie needs a nap!


Jamie said...

i'm so glad you can breathe a little lighter these days. :) it's amazing what those milestones can do for one's heart. :)
he is such a cutie! he has absolutely beautiful hair!! :)
I completely understand where your emotions are coming from. i still deal with those on a regular basis because we are in contact with milo's birthmother. it's difficult.....but adoption is beautiful in the fact that we are all able to help each other and we can't forget that... because of our desire for a child....we were the answer to someone else's prayers. someone who may have had no where else to turn.....and i must say thank God for safe haven laws. :)

Denver Jen said...

I'm sure it's such a relief to be past that period of time. He's adorable! I love all the updates - it keeps everything in perspective for a waiting mom.

Rebekah said...

He's already changing! Love the pictures and glad you have your first visit behind you!

Wendy said...

Could he BE any cuter????
I'm so glad that things are going so well!

Ashley said...

Wow! Smiling so early! What a precious boy you have there. Congrats on your big milestone. Our boys share this day together b/c we finalized today! Love the pics...

Natalie said...

Melba...he is absolutely gorgeous!! What a cutie!! Those black and white pictures are wonderful! I can hear the happiness in your posts, and am so glad that your son finally found you! He looks so content in your arms!
I love the idea of planting his roots too! So cool!!

zoomdog! said...

OH WOW!!!! I know I am way behind but life overtook me with some stuff, and I came here to check in tonight, not having been here in a little bit, and WOW WOW WOW, Mama!!!!!!!!!
I am totally tearing up looking at all the wonderful photos of your gorgeous!!! son and you and your hubby and your family!!!!!!!!
Melba, all I can say is...WOW!!! And Ayize chimes in, "YAY!!!!!!!!!!!!"
Happy belated Mother's Day! My heart is overwhelmed with happiness for you and your family!!!
XOXO, Izumi! :)

RB said...

I'm glad things are going so well! Charlie is a doll :)

Kelly said...

I imagine so many emotions are involved, but I'm sure relief is at the top of your list for getting through that first waiting period. He is so handsome and getting so big already!

hope548 said...

I'm so glad you've got one hurdle behind you. He is a beautiful little boy and as always, I'm so happy for you!

Anne said...

He is so so cute!! I am always checking for updates and new pictures. Am glad the first date is behind you now.

Shane & Marie said...

What a relief mommy! He is such a doll!

stillthinkingagain said...

Oh, Melba, you sound so peaceful these days... I'm so glad! Charlie is 100% cuteness -- I'm really not sure if he could BE any cuter.
Thanks for sharing the pictures... so glad that this first milestone date passed uneventfully.

Debbie B said...

So glad you got past this big mark. I know it's hard to not think about what they're missing when you're just so grateful for what you've been given.
Adorable pics of your little guy as always. You are having a lot of fun with him I can tell.

birthmothertalks said...

Too Cute!!!

Michelle said...

Congratulations! I am sure it is a relief to have your waiting period over. I haven't visited in quite a while and I was so thrilled to go back and read about Charlie's arrival and all the fun you've been having since.

He is a very handsome little guy. Enjoy -- they grow so quickly.