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Monday, November 9, 2009

Awed

This morning we were all in the bathroom getting ready for the day. Little Charlie was sitting on the floor. The following is the beautiful conversation we had that made me remember how awed I am by the blessing of our son:

Me: While looking at the November, 2007 copy of "Adoption Today" sitting on the counter. "Oh cool, this talks about November being Adoption Awareness Month, and it's November now.

Michael: "Wow, that was a long time ago."

Me: "Yep, that's when we started our adoption process, well...in the spring of 2007. So it took us almost exactly two years to go from paperwork to person."

Michael: "Yep, but I'm glad it took as long as it did, because if we had been quicker, we wouldn't have Charlie."

Charlie: Looks up at us with a delightful grin as we both gaze at him in wonder.

Me: "Yep, I'm even thankful for all the other stuff too, the infertility. Because if we had been able to conceive biologically, we also wouldn't have Charlie. I can't even imagine that."

Neither of us can even begin to fathom any baby other than Charlie at the center of our lives. He is so completely our baby that thinking of any baby other than him just seems all wrong. To consider how different our paths could have been, and to even think about our lives not having been touched by Charlie's...I honestly can't even go there. What a blessing and true miracle this little boy is for us!











15 comments:

BB said...

Melba- I have been thinking about this a lot lately. When we finalized, there was a family waiting with us to finalize with out judge, our attorney, our social worker and our agency. The little boy being adopted was pretty close to the same age as Riley- but a little older. Looking at him made me feel so strange... I couldn't help but consider the possibility that HIS birth parents had chosen US before Riley's had. It totally freaked me out!!! I know in my heart that I would have loved any little one that we were blessed to have in our home, however, I can't help but feel that this little girl is perfect for us. God put her in our home and our hearts knowing full well what he was doing.

It is nice and strange to think about how all that we have gone through led us here... and although it was pretty grueling going through it, we look back with thanks for the experience.

How great is that? I mean, seriously!!

athena said...

i love to hear stories like this! we are waiting for a match and i often think about how the timing has to be perfect! :)

what a beautiful family you are!!

hope548 said...

I know exactly what you mean. I can't imagine having any other little boy than the one we have. He couldn't be more perfect for us and I hope that we're also perfect for him. He and I even seem to be having the same allergies right now.

When I was briefly pregnant and thought it was really going to happen, I was actually worried that I could not love another child as much as D0n0van.

Rebekah said...

Us adopting mamas sure are reflectors aren't we? I, too, have been thinking a lot about Ty. I just finished putting all of Ty's story into a photo book and enjoyed the re-live piece by piece. Truly amazing. My life will never ever be the same. And I would never ever wish it any other way!!!! :)

Evergreen said...

You know, Melba, I feel the exact same way about our daughter. The path that led her to us and us to her was long and hard, but I wouldn't have it any other way.

KT said...

I love that you look at your family this way! It gives me hope that all of the bad turns we have experienced might have all been for a reason.

birthmothertalks said...

Thanks for sharing.

Kel said...

Even though we don't have our "little monkey" yet, I was thinking the same thing about his mom. If we had been chosen by anyone else, we would never have met her. We never would be doing THIS right now. It would have been someone else. And how strange that would have been.

Charlie is perfect with you and Michael. I'm so glad you are his family!

Jamie said...

i feel the same way....i always say i would go through all the pain and disappointment all over again if it meant having milo as my son. i can't imagine another child fitting more perfectly into our family. :) you truly are a beautiful family! :)

Rebekah said...

I ReALLY love your new picture at the top. He seems so very happy.

E said...

I loved reading this...how very sweet. Charlie was the child you and your husband were waiting for all these years. I always love your headers. Adorable photo of Charlie! Great family pic too!

Hoping for a Miracle~~ said...

I feel the same way, I couldn't imagine my life with out N! Everyday I look at my son and I think of how blessed I am to have him in my life. I wouldn't change one day of how N became our son because he is perfect for us in everyway!

You have a beauiful family Melba and Charlie radiates from the love you guys give him!

Dave & Amy Gerhart said...

I couldn't agree more...the path that God chose for us took a little time getting used to. We couldn't see the big picture while we were in the fog of infertility. Yet now we're beginning to see clearly. That God for whatever path was necessary that leads to Josiah (and Annie, too...)

Becky said...

Totally get this and totally agree! Everything we went through was part of God's plan to bring us the children that we have...not any others...in any other way!!!

Debbie B said...

Yes it is wonderful to now be on this side of it all and understand why it is we had to go through the pain and time to reach our children. I think in a way it makes us more appreciative of our children as they grow and um... get a temper and drive us crazy. :-) But my child would never do that.
Great post.